“I will never give my wife $ 1,200 for her stimulus check. You’ll have a few hundred dollars for shopping, and that’s it. Why is it wrong?

I am in the same situation. Of course, I am a generous man. You’ll have a few hundred dollars for shopping, and that’s it. Since I pay 100% of everything at home, I will never give my wife $ 1,200 to make her stimulus check at the store, while I am struggling to make ends meet.

Why am I wrong to keep most of the money?

Sick and tired

expensive Sick and tired,

Because it does not have your name on it, even if it is deposited in a joint bank account. Because it is a tax credit based on your 2020 income tax returns. Because if you file a joint income tax return, the check for $ 2,400 must be split. Because if your wife files her own $ 1,200 tax return, she owns it.

Why control how much money you give your wife his the stimulus infantilizes him. Since she is not a girl, she is an adult and your wife. Because they promised to love and honor each other. Because distributing a few hundred dollars on your check is humiliating and condescending.

I received my $ 1,200 stimulus check from my ex-husband because we filed joint taxes in 2018. Should I give him the money or return it to the IRS?

Because your decision to suspend your stimulation test says more about you than it does. Because maintaining this control over the bag chains cannot make anyone happy. Because sitting together and budgeting for the family could lead to a healthier, happier life.

Because it is always better to treat others as you would like them to treat you. Because if it’s hysterical, it’s historic. Because a marriage should be an association of equals, not an opportunity to experience the complaints of some children by controlling others. Because it is an opportunity to look at yourself.

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Because love is not a four-letter word, love is action. Because love is not transactional. Because you do not respect your wife by making these decisions for her. Because many women choose to be housewives and raise children, and put the family before the race, and it’s a full-time job.

Because we should always try to imagine ourselves in our 80s or 90s or more, and think, “What would have been the most honorable thing to do?” And do that. Because it is never too late to use a public health emergency to reassess our relationship with the world, with ourselves and with each other.

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Whether you like it or not, she also made sacrifices. Because your wife, like everyone else, probably also has her problems. Because her difficulties may also be related to the decisions she made, including her decision to marry, for example, the other guy who would have loved her.