Oprah Winfrey acaba de compartir el mensaje de liderazgo perfecto para 2021. (Es pura inteligencia emocional)

Mientras cuento esta historia, comenzaré admitiendo que me preguntaba cómo resultaría.

Winfrey habló en las ceremonias de graduación en la Universidad de California en Santa Bárbara el sábado.

La dirección fue virtual debido a la pandemia en curso. Y en tiempos normales, es bastante difícil ofrecer palabras de sabiduría cliché y ofrecer algo para recordar.

Pero para este momento en el que todo el mundo necesita un impulso, Oprah lo ha cumplido.

Fuerza multiplicada por fuerza

Tu idea fue simple. Hemos pasado por mucho. Incluso aquellos de nosotros que sobrevivimos más o menos ilesos hemos perseverado e incluso sufrido.

Pero hay una manera de llorar lo que hemos perdido y celebrar lo que ganamos con ello. Regular:

  • El crecimiento surge de la lucha.
  • La fuerza proviene del crecimiento.
  • La fuerza proviene de la fuerza.

Como dijo Oprah, y creo que recordaré esta línea: “Fuerza multiplicada por fuerza, a veces fuerza, a veces fuerza, a veces fuerza, igual fuerza”.

Si eso se ve un poco extraño en la página, dígalo en voz alta. Piense en ello como una ecuación. Cualquier dificultad que soporta, pensando en ello a través de este prisma, se combina exponencialmente para prepararse para el éxito y la felicidad potenciales.

Mayor que su ganancia financiera

Hay una salvedad. Con el poder viene la responsabilidad, la responsabilidad de usar ese poder para el bien.

Y Oprah encontró una manera de explicar esto, lo que habría sido muy difícil si no hubiera mostrado también una inteligencia emocional real.

“Esta pandemia ha demostrado cuánto queda por hacer. Así que elige un problema. ¡Algún problema! La lista es larga … sin embargo, usted elige usar las habilidades y talentos que desarrolló durante UCSB, haga lo que elija para obtener algo mayor que su ganancia financiera “.

Ves el problema, estoy seguro. Podría sonar terriblemente rico (juego de palabras intencionado) y producir lo contrario de la recepción deseada para un multimillonario como Winfrey para aconsejar a los nuevos graduados que dejen de lado sus ambiciones de ganancias financieras y, en cambio, se concentren en servir a los demás.

Por una fracción de segundo, me pregunté si había perdido su toque. Pero luego siguió inmediatamente con un lenguaje y una historia que sugería que había pensado detenidamente no solo en lo que iba a decir, sino también en cómo la audiencia lo notaría.

Inteligencia emocional

Winfrey continuó admitiendo el punto obvio: “Digo esto como alguien que ha ganado mucho dinero”.

“Eso es lo que sé. Si su paradigma es el servicio, tendrá éxito.

Presenté el programa de entrevistas más exitoso de la televisión en 25 años. Los primeros años estuvieron bien. Fue grandioso. Hice dinero, me divertí. Pero los 22 restantes fueron fenomenales porque dejé de hacer un programa y mis productores dijeron que solo tenemos una intención y ¿cómo podemos servir a nuestra audiencia y ser una fuerza para el bien en su vida?

Entonces comenzó el espectáculo. Deje que el servicio sea su mantra. ¿Cómo puedo ser utilizado al servicio de algo más grande que yo mismo? Haga esta pregunta con sinceridad y le garantizo que un pequeño y brillante acto de bondad y gratitud abrirá simultáneamente su vida y lo recompensará de una manera que lo dejará asombrado “.

Bueno, no les voy a decir que este fue el mejor discurso de apertura de todos los tiempos. (Sigue siendo Steve Jobs en la Universidad de Stanford en 2005).

Ni siquiera les voy a decir que este fue el mejor discurso inaugural de Winfrey. (Por ejemplo, lo que hizo en la Universidad de Harvard en 2013 podría superarlo).

Pero por ahora Enhebró la aguja y comunicó el mensaje correcto en el momento adecuado:

  • Tienes poder como resultado de tus luchas.
  • Usted es responsable de usar su poder en servicio.
  • A medida que utilice su poder en el servicio, paradójicamente, recibirá recompensas “que dejará asombrado”.

Aquí está la charla. Avísame si has visto un año mejor este año. Y no olvides el gratis Libro electronico: Mejorando la inteligencia emocional 2021, lo que puedas Descarga aquí.

Las opiniones expresadas aquí por los columnistas de Heaven32 son propias, no de Heaven32.

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"This pandemic has exposed how much there is to do. So, pick a problem. Any problem! The list is long ... However, you choose to use the skills and talents that you've been developing while at UCSB, let what you choose be in service to something greater than your financial gain."

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You see the problem, I'm sure. It could sound awfully rich (pun intended), and spark the opposite of the desired reception, for a multi-billionaire like Winfrey to advise new graduates to set aside their ambitions for financial gain, and instead focus on service to others.

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For a split second there, I wondered if she had lost her touch. But then, she immediately followed up with language and a story that suggested she had thought hard about not just what she wanted to say--but how it would fall on the audience's ears.

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Emotional intelligence

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Winfrey went on, acknowledging the obvious point: "I say that as one who has enjoyed a lot of financial gain." 

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Then, she continued:

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"This is what I know. If your paradigm is service, you will be successful. 

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I hosted the most successful talk show on television for 25 years. The first couple of years  were fine. It was great. I was making money, I was having fun. But the remaining 22 were phenomenal because I stopped trying to do a show and told my producers we have only one intention and that is how do we serve our audience and be a force of good in their lives? 

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That's when the show took off. So let service be your mantra. How can I be used in service to something greater than myself? Ask that question in truth, and I guarantee that one small shimmering act of goodness and gratitude at a time life will open up to you and it will reward you in ways that will leave you in awe."

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Now, I'm not going to tell you this was the best commencement address ever. (That's still Steve Jobs at Stanford University in 2005.)

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I'm not even going to tell you this was Winfrey's best commencement address ever. (For example, the one she gave at Harvard University in 2013 might top it.)

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But for right now? It threaded the needle and communicated the right message for the right time:

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  • You have power as a result of your struggles.
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  • You have a responsibility to use your power in service.
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  • Using your power in service, paradoxically, will result in rewards "that will leave you in awe."  

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Here's the speech. Let me know if you've seen a better one this year. And, don't forget the free  ebook: Improving Emotional Intelligence 2021, which you can download here.

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